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SANTA
CRUZ – An ardent band of women in the seaside
city of Santa Cruz is on a heavenly mission –
they sing for the dying.
They call themselves the Threshold Choir, and they
perform at the bedsides of the terminally ill, singing
in intimate tones, like a mother soothing a newborn.
“We think of these as lullabies for ... on the
way out,” said choir founder Kate Munger.
Munger, a minister's daughter, started the singing
group several years ago. Today, the Marin County woman
oversees 35 Threshold Choirs in a dozen states.
They sing a cappella in homes, hospitals and hospices,
at the request of the dying and their families.
The choir members believe singing calms the fear and
pain at the end of life.
“I've been in a lot of choirs and I've done a
lot of singing over the years, but there's nothing like
the power of this,” said Amrita Cottrell, with
the Santa Cruz choir. “It brings people back to
a place of tranquillity and healing.”
To avoid overwhelming the dying or their family, no
more than two or three choir members sing at a bedside
at a time. Each choir has a roster of 60 to 80 members.
The choirs draw on a 300-song repertoire of hymns,
gospel tunes and other pieces assembled by Munger –
from “Ave Maria” to “I'll Fly Away”
to “Calling All Angels” by Canadian songwriter
Jane Siberry.
At a recent rehearsal of the Santa Cruz group, staged
in a chapel at the city's Dominican Hospital, a dozen
singers practiced a brief melody penned by a friend
of the choir.
Sitting in a circle within the dimly lit chapel, they
sounded a muted, contemplative tone:
“I'm sending you light - To heal you, to hold
you.
I'm sending you light - To hold you in love.”
A
hospital patient entered, gripping a walker and wearing
a thin gown. Hearing the song, Brent Ellis, 48, swayed
his frail head.
“I was just going to find a silent place to pray
and instead I found this chapel full of wonderful angel
choir music,” Ellis said later. “I cried
at one point. I cried because it was so beautiful.”
He is dealing with pneumonia and chronic pancreatitis,
a disease that he said will claim his life someday.
Song, like prayer, can act as a balm, said John Fanestil
of La Mesa. A Methodist clergyman, Fanestil wrote the
2006 book “Mrs. Hunter's Happy Death: Lessons
on Living from People Preparing to Die.”
“Music helps people go back in their memories,
to favorite times in their lives, to particular people
and particular events,” he said. “The idea
of music at the death bed is consistent with everything
I know about good practices of dying.”
Fanestil brings a hymnal when he visits the terminally
ill.
Sometimes, he quietly sings in their ear. Other times,
he encourages family and friends to try a favorite song.
Not just to help the person, but to comfort themselves,
he said.
At San Diego Hospice in Hillcrest, volunteer harpists
play for patients, with their permission. A hospice
official said community choirs have also performed in
the facility.
Munger, 58, created the first Threshold Choir in 2000,
inspired by the passing of a friend from AIDS.
She had spent a day with him, doing his laundry and
other household chores. He was comatose and in bed.
She wound up singing to him for two hours.
“What was really profound was how serene I got.
I knew that as I calmed ... my inner calm was contagious
to him,” she said. “At the end of the afternoon,
I felt like I had really stumbled onto something extraordinary.”
There are a dozen Threshold Choirs today in the Bay
Area, including in Oakland, Concord and San Anselmo.
Munger directs nearly all of the groups.
She has also overseen the formation of choirs in Chico
and Davis, along with groups in Oregon, Washington,
Illinois, Michigan, Alaska and other states.
Munger said a San Diego group may form this spring.
The Threshold singers are all women. Some arrive with
years of choir experience. Others come without training,
inspired by the group's unusual mission.
“Most of them are people who have had really
amazing things happen to them – miraculous and
tragic,” Munger said. “And sometimes a combination
of those two.”
Khalila Alldis joined the Santa Cruz group three years
ago. She is a 60-year-old massage therapist. She struggles
with back problems and chronic headaches.
Singing, she said, provides a kind of tonic.
Her choir practices in the Dominican Hospital chapel.
It also sings in the hospital's sun-lit lobby two mornings
a month.
“I can be having a terrible day and come in and
sing for 10 or 15 minutes and my whole perspective changes,”
Alldis said. “It's just the best, quickest, most
transformative high.”
It also helps ease the pain of her husband's death.
She said he was murdered 14 years ago. Even talking
about it today, she tears up.
“Twenty-two years we were together,” she
said. “I don't think I would have made it beyond
that at all without being able to sing.”
Joanne
Lamb, 56, sings with the Palo Alto chapter. At a recent
rehearsal, she volunteered to sit in a reclining chair
surrounded by the singers.
It gave the choir a chance to practice in a setting
resembling a bedroom. It also proved therapeutic to
Lamb.
Pained by the breakup of her marriage, Lamb lay in
the chair and quietly wept.
“I've never felt so surrounded and protected
and safe,” she said later. “We're all healed
by doing this. We're all healed by singing.”
Laura Devine joined the Santa Cruz choir in June, when
her mother was in the hospital. Learning that doctors
didn't expect her mother to live, Devine rushed to her
mother's bedside, badly shaken. She sang a slow gospel-inspired
song she had just learned in the choir:
“I'm gonna lift my mother up, She is not heavy
.....
If I don't lift her up, I will fall down.”
Devine, 50, believes her singing played a role in her
mother's unexpected recovery – she was home within
a week – saying the incident taught her “the
power of the voice.”
Munger said it takes courage to stand over a dying
stranger's bed and sing. It's so intimate, and some
choir members take months or years before trying it.
Most requests for a choir visit come from the elderly
who are spending their final days at home.
Once the first note sounds, Munger said, the singers
often witness a series of changes.
The ailing person's heartbeat frequently steadies.
The face softens. Relatives in the room breathe more
deeply, or join in and sing.
It's a comforting moment, Munger said, as when a mother
softly croons a lullaby at the end of the day.
Or, in this case, “at the end of a lovely, long
life.”
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